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tl;dr I'm desperate to happily marry and have kids.

Hello all, I'm a 31 year old single black woman who lives near London. I'm educated and have a good job. I have no children. I'm well spoken. I like history and am very maternal. I realise I'm setting myself up for all kinds of negative posts but tonight I'm typing this and I'm desperate. I want to be in a happy marriage and have a lot of children but I've never even had a boyfriend. I go on dates and am asked out a lot but it's rare I just click with a guy. I recently met a guy on a dating site, who ticked all but one of my boxes (the height one 😂) but at this stage that is becoming less important. We clicked online and met up and we remained in contact for about a week and a half later. He initiated all whatsapp conversations and pursued me with phone calls and then last week Thursday he whatsapped me and then blocked me an hour later. I have no idea what happened. Where do I go from here? It's so frustrating seeing friends marry and have children and all want is the same


Slow your roll home slice! First thing first, bf. Don't start thinking or talking about kids. That'll drive guys away with the quickness.

Ok so London is not an easy city to date in, and it seems like you might need to broaden your horizons in dating and definitely lower your standards. Every single person whom I met that were single and over 30 in a major metropolis always thinks that they can do better and this stay single. Never fails... Including myself...

I don't have any advice... Just stating the obvious in that you have to lower them standards.

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Original Poster2 points · 1 year ago

I know I never mentioned marriage or kids. I'm going to a friend's wedding next month and it's another reminder I'm not where're I want to be yet but don't get me wrong I'm super happy for her

Naw fam... Use the wedding to your advantage! There will be people of your friends age in the same situation as you... Seeing their friend get married and are not in the same place in life... Look for a guy there.

You should also ask the bride or groom for some advanced intelligence on who is single ya know?

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Original Poster3 points · 1 year ago

My friend, the bride, she's already seating me near the groom's single friends at the reception, she has my back.

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