We instantly hit it off on Tinder a couple weeks ago. Upfront we were both clear and in agreement of what we were looking for from each other. A no-strings type of deal, (both of us are recently out of LTR and just looking to have some fun. Come to find out she is very recently out of a 5+ year relationship). We set a tentative time to go on a date, see if there was still a connection and just go from there, no commitments from either side.
But our conversations where great (somewhat overly sexual), and basically non-stop for the next 3 days after we initially matched. There was a clear difference between this conversation and others that I have had with tinder dates in the past. This is when we both started to realize that we actually really enjoyed talking to each other and it felt like there could a potential for more then just a hook-up. On the third night of texting and some calling back and forth we end up sexting and it was amazing, I could feel that we really have chemistry. And she said she felt the same way and couldn't wait to actually meet.
The weekend comes and both of us are very busy so the communication definitely slowed down at this point, which I didn't see as a bad thing, except that I did miss talking with her. Our communication over the weekend consisted of a couple texts back and forth, but minimal for the most part. On Monday (when we were going to meet) she told me that she felt like everything was going too fast and too forward and that she just wanted to slow way down. At this point I was really into her so I didn't want to push her away, and honestly I didn't disagree that we were moving very fast, so I agreed.
Over the next couple of days I tried to pull back and give her space, as I didn't want to seem overly needy or that I wasn't listening to what she wanted. It seemed to work, as she initiated conversation with me on more then one occasion, which was great! But our conversations were not at all like they were in the beginning, where they were heavy in sexual context. Now our conversations are more vanilla, which is fine, but I feel like she is losing interest in me, or was at least more interested when I was more aggressive and sexual in nature. I was not and still am not sure if she is looking for me to be sexual so I have tended to stay away, for the most part, to try and have more of the slow approach, but she is still very clear about my intentions.
In the past couple days she has told me multiple times that she does actually like me (not from me asking), and she misses talking to me, but also likes being friends. I really don't know how to read that.
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